Do you feel never understood? Do you feel judged?
Is finding someone who can relate to your pain, work towards your healing and empower you to restore your own happiness difficult to find?
It is true that stigma still exists when it comes to your emotional health. Many who could profit from counselling are just not stepping forward.
Here are some myths that are preventing many from seeking counselling:
1. ‘I am not strong’
In a world of entitlement, which is all about ‘me’, looking or seeking support or help does not position me as ‘Strong’. ‘I need to be successful’, ‘I cannot make mistakes’, ‘I need to get it right’ ‘I need to be beautiful’, ‘I need to be slim’, is the mental framework for many in this world. The society has pushed such messages for centuries now and to get people away from this mould is a task by itself.
Such an outlook keeps them disillusioned when they cannot match up to their own expectations, causing restlessness, depression and suicidal thoughts. But ‘yet I will not reach out since my image in the family, the society will be seen as a weak person’.
2. ‘Something is not right with this person’
The society at large continues to believe that if you seek counselling, you must have some ‘madness’. Not realizing that every one of us go through different kind of emotions to different stimuli around us. Some of us manage those emotions and some of us may be quite overwhelmed with those emotions. But the society is quick to label the person and write them off as ‘Oh something is seriously wrong with her/him’. Hence, the thought of seeking help is blocked with the feelings of ‘will I be seen as a sick person or as though something wrong in me?’
3. ‘Not for something so silly’
Very often people define in their own minds that counselling is only for depression. Not for something like uncontrollable anger, deep sorrow, anxiety, disappointments, lack of sleep, stress, restlessness, panic attack etc.,
Just like we all love to be fit physically, so is your mental health. You need to keep yourself emotionally fit and hence should not let any of your emotions weigh you down. Seeking support from a qualified counselor can help you lighten the burden and you could begin to feel better and hence think better. Do not belittle your feelings and do not postpone.
4. ‘Counselling will solve all my problems’
A good qualified counselling psychologist will not begin to reel out solutions to all your problems one by one. No. A counselor will work with you to build your own emotional resilience and empower you to see the strengths within you and help you hone emotional skills to enable you to heal by yourself. You will learn new techniques to be emotionally fit and competent as well as use the tools to make you believe in yourself.
Never feel ashamed about your emotions. It is natural and normal. It is always good to keep fit emotionally and so reaching out to a counselor is like having a physical coach or going to a gym. Just like you care for your body, care for your mind and your emotions.
LeanonMe has qualified and trained counsellors who can facilitate your emotional fitness. Set your own goals to become emotionally competent and fit and reach out to us to be your partner in meeting your emotional fitness goals.
“You are better than you think” – Jennyfer Ranjan, Founder, LeanonMe
AUTHOR: Jennyfer, Founder, LeanonMe
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